Relationships


Broken Relationships



Broken relationships are wounds caused by our sinful decisions, or we are affected by the sin of others.

David and Bathsheba

In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem.
2 Samuel 11:1 (NIV)

Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
Psalm 51:1 (NIV)

We heard David’s pain (v. 1-12)

God restores us (v. 12)

God allows us to teach his ways (v.13)

God does not delight in empty sacrifices (v. 16)

God requires a broken and a contrite heart (17)

Suppressed emotions are infected wounds that need to be drained, cleaned and healed.

Broken relationships can be avoided by staying close to God, identifying the person’s lifestyle with sin, and progression with Christ.

Bad Relationships



Hosea and Gomar

“Say of your brothers, ‘My people,’ and of your sisters, ‘My loved one.’
Hosea 2:1 (NIV)

God connects Israel as a shameful nation that worships other gods; with a believer and a non-believer.

Bad relationships raise the risk of…

Dishonoring God

They took their daughters in marriage and gave their own daughters to their sons, and served their gods.
Judges 3:6 (NIV)

The Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord; they forgot the Lord their God and served the Baals and the Asherahs.
Judges 3:7 (NIV)

The anger of the Lord burned against Israel so that he sold them into the hands of Cushan-Rishathaim king of Aram Naharaim, to whom the Israelites were subject for eight years.
Judges 3:8 (NIV)

But when they cried out to the Lord, he raised up for them a deliverer, Othniel son of Kenaz, Caleb’s younger brother, who saved them.
Judges 3:9 (NIV)

The Spirit of the Lord came on him, so that he became Israel’s judge and went to war. The Lord gave Cushan-Rishathaim king of Aram into the hands of Othniel, who overpowered him.
Judges 3:10 (NIV)

So the land had peace for forty years, until Othniel son of Kenaz died.
Judges 3:11 (NIV)

Again the Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord, and because they did this evil the Lord gave Eglon king of Moab power over Israel.
Judges 3:12 (NIV)

Getting the Ammonites and Amalekites to join him, Eglon came and attacked Israel, and they took possession of the City of Palms.
Judges 3:13 (NIV)

The Israelites were subject to Eglon king of Moab for eighteen years.
Judges 3:14 (NIV)

Again the Israelites cried out to the Lord, and he gave them a deliverer—Ehud, a left-handed man, the son of Gera the Benjamite. The Israelites sent him with tribute to Eglon king of Moab.
Judges 3:15 (NIV)

Impurity



It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;
1 Thessalonians 4:3 (NIV)

that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable,
1 Thessalonians 4:4 (NIV)

not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;
1 Thessalonians 4:5 (NIV)

and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before.
1 Thessalonians 4:6 (NIV)

For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
1 Thessalonians 4:7 (NIV)

Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.
1 Thessalonians 4:8 (NIV)

Broken Relationships



Even through our mistakes and offenses to God, He is always trying to deliver us.

“Therefore I am now going to allure her;
I will lead her into the wilderness
and speak tenderly to her.
Hosea 2:14 (NIV)

There I will give her back her vineyards,
and will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.
There she will respond as in the days of her youth,
as in the day she came up out of Egypt.
Hosea 2:15 (NIV)

“In that day,” declares the Lord,
“you will call me ‘my husband’;
you will no longer call me ‘my master. ’
Hosea 2:16 (NIV)

I will betroth you to me forever;
I will betroth you in righteousness and justice,
in love and compassion.
Hosea 2:19 (NIV)

I will betroth you in faithfulness,
and you will acknowledge the Lord.
Hosea 2:20 (NIV)

“In that day I will respond,”
declares the Lord—
“I will respond to the skies,
and they will respond to the earth;
Hosea 2:21 (NIV)

and the earth will respond to the grain,
the new wine and the olive oil,
and they will respond to Jezreel.
Hosea 2:22 (NIV)

I will plant her for myself in the land;
I will show my love to the one I called ‘Not my loved one. ’
I will say to those called ‘Not my people, ’ ‘You are my people’;
and they will say, ‘You are my God.’ ”
Hosea 2:23 (NIV)

Botched Relationships



Carry out a task badly or carelessly

Adam and Eve

The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.
Genesis 2:15 (NIV)

And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden;
Genesis 2:16 (NIV)

but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”
Genesis 2:17 (NIV)

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:18 (NIV)

Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.
Genesis 2:19 (NIV)

So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
Genesis 2:20 (NIV)

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.
Genesis 2:21 (NIV)

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:22 (NIV)

The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
Genesis 2:23 (NIV)

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24 (NIV)

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Genesis 2:25 (NIV)

Two believers of God who sinned differently but paid the same price.

They traded perfection for imperfection, because of one sinful decision.

Slow your roll, know your role!

Blessed Relationships



Christ and The Church

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:22 (NIV)

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Ephesians 5:23 (NIV)

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:24 (NIV)

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Ephesians 5:25 (NIV)

to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
Ephesians 5:26 (NIV)

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
Ephesians 5:27 (NIV)

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:28 (NIV)

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
Ephesians 5:29 (NIV)

for we are members of his body.
Ephesians 5:30 (NIV)

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
Ephesians 5:31 (NIV)

This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
Ephesians 5:32 (NIV)

Blessed relationships reflect Christ.



Women are called to submit, as to the Lord.

Submit - as the church is subject to Christ

Respect



Husbands (compared to Christ)

Love your wives - as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Lead her - having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.

Blessed relationships have



Boundaries

Spiritual Fruit

God’s Anointing