The Grass Is Always Greener?

The Grass Is Always Greener?

You know the saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side?” For much of my life, I felt like this quote was an accurate description of my life. I mean, my life wasn’t horrible, but it was definitely no walk in the park. There were times in my life where it actually felt like trying to run across a ten lane interstate highway in Dallas, Texas.

I know I can speak for most Native men when I say that it feels like you are born into an uphill battle.

Many circumstances that we commonly face as Natives growing up seem to weigh on us heavy from an early age. Things like being broke, abuse, alcohol, drugs and families that argue are pretty common.

For years, I spent many hours thinking to myself, why? I let that question drive me. I used the confusion, the hurt and the tears to harden my heart in a way where I could successfully make it through; until I was old enough to earn my own. Comparison in my life was a reminder to me why I kept everyone at arm’s length, and things weren’t going to change unless I was going to do it. I grew up with a chip on my shoulder. It got to the point in my mind, when it came down to it, it was me versus the world. Even though it seems pretty cold, it got me places. Was this how I was created to do life?

Unfortunately, it wasn’t until I was older that I realized the way I was living wasn’t the way I was intended to. I spent so many years wasting time. I had this understanding that I wasn’t ever going to have grass that was greener, unless I found my own and made it green.

It began to poison me. I never had freedom. I grew up knowing about how much the Creator God loved me. I had a personal relationship with Jesus because I believed He died for me. I had this view that once I succeed and make it on my own, I will be able to experience joy. Once I made it through all the garbage that comes with life, that you can’t really control when you’re a kid, then you will be able to begin the “pursuit of happiness.” I completely missed the mark.

Our life will never be perfect. There are so many things that you will not be able to change nor control; having said that, we are not designed to go through life just trying to “make it until”. But your situation doesn’t have to always dictate what you can do! In the Creator’s book it says that Jesus has come to give us life and life to the fullest. And that, my friend, is freedom.

That grass that looks greener over there? Yeah, that grass had to be watered by someone. So yes, there is something you are responsible for and that is to water your own grass. Even though you may not be able to change the storm that hits your family, you can be the love and encouragement that helps bring your family through it. It’s about changing your perspective and figuring out what you can do. You and your family’s grass doesn’t have to stay dead. But the only way it might become “greener” is if you are the one to water it.

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